Her Name & Family
Asma’ bint ‘Umays Ibn Ma’d Ibn Tamîm Ibn al-Hârith Ibn Ka’b Ibn Mâlik Ibn Quhâfah. She was called Umm’ Abdullah.
Life in Islam
She had embraced Islam early, even before Muslims got into al-Arqam house. She was the wife of Ja’far Ibn Abu Tâlib. Asmâ’ (may Allah be pleased with her) was among the early immigrants too. She migrated with her husband, Ja’far Ibn Abu Tâlib to Abyssinia. There, she gave birth to three children: ‘Abdullah, Muhammad, and `Awn.
When the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) issued a command for the immigrants to come to Medina, Asmâ’ (may Allah be pleased with her) was so pleased with the new Muslim State. She accompanied the caravan setting from Abyssinia to Medina. No sooner did the immigrants arrive at Medina than it was proclaimed that Muslims had invaded Khaybar. When meeting Ja ‘far Ibn Abu Tâlib, the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) said, “By Allah, I do not know which occasion does please me more: the victory in Khaybar or the arrival of Ja’far.”
Once Asma’ bint ‘Umays (may Allah be pleased with her) visited Hafsah bint ‘Umar. Having seen Asma’, ‘Umar asked, “Who is that?” she said “Asmâ’ bint ‘Amais.” ‘Umar (may Allah be pleased with him) replied, “The woman who migrated to Abyssinian by sea.” Asmâ’ said, “Yes”. Then ‘Umar said, “We migrated before you (to Medina). Therefore, we are closer to the Prophet than you.” Asmâ’ became angry and said, “No, by Allah while you lived beside the Messenger (pbuh), eating and listening to his sermons, we lived far away in a foreign land in Abyssinia. This was for the sake of Allah and his Messenger (pbuh). She added, “By Allah” I will never eat or drink until I mention that to the Messenger of Allah, (pbuh). We were suffering and were unsafe. I will mention that typically to the Prophet (pbuh). When the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) came, Asma’ said, “‘Umar said, such and such.” The Prophet (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) said “What was your reply?” She said, “I said such and such.” The Prophet (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) said, “He is not closer to me than you, the immigrants to Abyssinia). He migrated only once but you, the people of the ship, migrated twice.” [Reported by Bukhari]
Asma’ (may Allah be pleased with her) got pleased with the Prophet’s response. The people soon knew what the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) said to Asmâ’. They began to come to Asmâ’ asking her about what they had heard. Asma’ added, “I saw Abu Musâ and the people of the ship coming one after the other to ask about this hadîth. They were very happy to hear that praise from the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him).
Death of her husband
In the day of Mu’tah, Ja’far, Asma’s wife was martyred. He was called Ja’far at-Tayâr (the Flying), because his two arms were cut off while trying keeping the banner of Islam up. The Prophet (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) said that instead of his two arms, Allah granted him two wings to fly in Paradise. When Ja’far died in the battlefield, the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) asked his household to make same food for Ja’far’s family since they might be occupied by their affliction.”
Later, she was married to Abu Bakr as-Siddiq (may Allah be pleased with him). Later on, her husband, Abu Bakr died. Abu Bakr left a will stating that his wife should wash him after death. Asmâ’ therefore washed her husband sadly.
After that, Ali Ibn Abu Tâlib (may Allah be pleased with him) married Asmâ’ after the death of Fatima. Asmâ’ gave birth to Yahyâ and `Awn.
Ali Ibn Abu Tâlib succeeded `Uthmân Ibn `Affân (may Allah be pleased with them) as the caliphate of the Muslims. Therefore, Asmâ’ got married to two caliphates of Muslims; Abu Bakr and Ali.
After this long life of afflictions and trials during which Asma kept patient, Asmâ’ got ill and died in 88 AH.