Umm Kulthum bint ‘Uqba was the daughter of ‘Uqba ibn Abu Mu’ayt and sister of Walid ibn ‘Uqba.
At the Treaty of Hudaybiyyah, Umm Kulthum bint ‘Uqba, daughter of the Prophet’s (peace be upon him) enemy ‘Uqbah bin Abu Mu’ayt, sought asylum with the Muslims when she learned that a revelation (60:10) had said that women seeking the Prophet did not have to be returned to their families and men, unlike the custom for male escapees.
First, she married Zayd ibn Harithah (may Allah be pleased with him). After Zayd was killed in battle of Mu’ta she married Az-Zubayr (may Allah be pleased with him) who divorced her after a while. Then she married Abd al-Rahman ibn Awf (may Allah be pleased with him) and bore him two sons, Ibraheem and Hameed. After Abd al-Rahman’s (may Allah be pleased with him) death she married ‘Amr ibn al-‘Aas (may Allah be pleased with him) and died after one month of the marriage.
Source: at-Tabakat al-Kubraa of Ibn Sa’d.
Narrated: Um Kulthum bint Uqba From Sahih Bukhari
Narrated/Authority of Um Kulthum bint Uqba
Listed in: Peacemaking (Reconciliation)
Umm Kulthum: A Blessed Daughter from a Wretched Father
Allah Ta`ala out of His infinite mercy, blesses whom He wishes with the
great bounty of Islam. In spite of all the persecutions and oppositions of
Uqbah ibn Mu`ayt, his daughter Umm Kulthum embraced Islam secretly in
the most dangerous time to be a Muslim in Makkah. Once the light of Islam
enters a person’s heart, then there can be no one to extinguish that light
from Allah! She was such a brave young woman with strong faith that
neither her hard-headed father, nor Quraysh, nor all of Arabia could stop
her from being a Muslim.
First Woman to Migrate to Madina Munawwarah
As we have already learned, the Hijrah to Madina was a very dangerous and
rough journey. Even the strongest of brave men faced many hardships in this
journey. One can just imagine how hard it could have been for the women of
that time! But Umm Kulthum was one of those women who strong faith in
Allah Ta`ala gave her the strength to undertake this arduous journey.
She had the honor to become the first woman to make the Hijrah after the
Prophet (sallallahu alayhi wa sallam). And this is her story:
Umm Kulthum relates her story of her Hijrah saying, “I used to go the
outskirts of Makkah near the wilderness to visit some relatives of ours who
lived there and would stay with them for about 3 to 4 days. This was my
habit from time to time. My family didn’t mind because they knew I used to
stay at our relatives’ house.
So one day, I finally intended to make the Hijrah to Madina. I acted as if I
were coming out to wilderness to go to my relatives’ place as was my usual
habit. In this way, my family would never suspect that I was a Muslim and
wanted to migrate to Madina to the Prophet (sallallahu alayhi wa sallam).
So I left Makkah, and on my way, a strange man suddenly appeared in front
of me asking where I was headed to. I became afraid, so I asked him why he
wanted to know, and who he was. He told me that he was from the tribe of
Khuza`ah, so I was relieved because the tribe of Banu Khuza`ah had
accepted Islam at the hands of the Prophet (sallallahu alayhi wa sallam).
I told him that I had accepted Islam and that I intended to make the Hijrah
to Rasulullah (sallallahu alayhi wa sallam) and that I wasn’t so acquainted with
the way. He said that he would guide me and protect me on the way. He then
brought a camel for me and made it kneel down so that I could mount it.
After I mounted the camel, he took it by the reins and led the camel on the
way. By Allah, he was such a modest and shameful man that he did not utter
a single word to me in the entire way. When we had to stop to rest on the
way, he would tie the camel to a tree, make it kneel down and then go away
from that area so that I would not feel uncomfortable. In the morning he
would come again and take the reigns of the camel without looking at me until
I would mount the camel, and he did like this all the way until we finally
reached Madina Munawwarah. May Allah Ta`ala reward the man with good.
Being Tested By Rasulullah (sallallahu alayhi wa sallam)
The struggle was still not over. There was still one important matter to be
resolved. And that was, would the Prophet (sallallahu alayhi wa sallam) accept
her to stay in Madina or not? As soon as Umm Kulthum reached Madina, she
came to Umm Salamah (radhiallahu anha) and she welcomed her and gave her
place. Umm Kulthum pleaded to Umm Salamah to convince the Prophet
(sallallahu alayhi wa sallam) to let her stay and not to send her back to her
family, because she would not be able to withstand their persecution and
So when the Prophet (sallallahu alayhi wa salam) saw her, he welcomed her
and then tested her as to why she wanted to stay in Madina. Allah Ta`ala
commanded His Prophet that any woman who migrates to Madina must be
tested so that it becomes known as to why they made the Hijrah.
An oath was to be taken from them saying, “By Allah, we did not migrate
except for the sake of Allah and Rasul (sallallahu alayhi wa salam) and Islam.
By Allah, we did not come to Madina for any worldly motive or desire. We did
not come to Madina for the sake of getting married, or for acquiring any
wealth.” If they swore on this, then the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa salam
would let them stay, and if not, then they would be sent back.
Umm Kulthum (radhiallahu anha) was amongst those fortunate women who
were sincere and thus she was allowed to stay in Madina. Later on she
became married blessed with a life of Islam. May Allah Ta`ala be pleased
with her and all of the companions of Rasulullah (sallallahu alayhi wa sallam).