Hazrat Julaybib (رضئ اللہ تعالی عنہ)

Julaybib RA – The Hidden Diamond Sunken in The Mud.

Julaybib RA was a Martyr.
This is all about Julaybib RA, not many of us ever heard of this dear sahaba of Rasulullah SAW. This is about humanity, a sense of dignity,love, compassion and reality of worldly life. Where only the most Taqwa and highest of iman will be able to understand the torment of inequality of this physical life. 
Rasulullah SAW, the best of mankind, exemplary ” Uswatun Hasanah” in showing us the (sunnah) in dealing with others and other beings. The kind of love we should shower unto others as a Khalifah on this earth.  
Though one of the less known companions but not to within the companions in the early time of Islam, but not with Rasulullah SAW who knew him and like Julaybib RA. His name was acquired prior to his acceptance of Islam and is considered unusual and incomplete. In the Arabic language Julaybib means “small grown” being the diminutive form of the wordjalbab, indicating that Julaybib was small and short, even dwarf-like. He was also described as being damim, meaning ugly, deformed, or not likened by many..
Julaybib’s lineage was unknown and there is no record of his parents or what tribe he belonged to. All that was known of him was that he was an Arab and that he was one of the Ansar in Medina.
With Julaybib RA in mind, Rasulullah SAW went to an Ansari man and said: “I want to have your daughter married.” “How wonderful and blessed, O Rasulullah and what a delight to the eye (this would be),” he replied. “I do not want her for myself,” added Rasulullah SAW “Then for whom, O Rasulullah?” asked the man, obviously disappointed. “For Julaybib,” said Rasulullah SAW. The Ansari went to consult with his wife, telling her of Rasulullah’s desire for their daughter to marry Julaybib. His wife was repulsive, and protested saying “To Julaybib! No, never to Julaybib! No, by Allah , we shall not marry (her) to him.”
While the Ansari was preparing to inform Rasulullah SAW of what his wife said, the daughter hearing her mother’s protestations, asked: “Who has asked you to marry me?” It is said that she the daughter was so beautiful that there was none among the women of that clan who could compete with her looks. She was so shy and modest that perhaps the sky itself had never seen her head uncovered. She had so much fear of her creator and piety, that she would spend her days and nights in worship. 

The daughter asked what was happening, she was told that Rasulullah SAW wants your hand in marriage for Julaybib. As the Mother continued her crying and wailing the daughter spoke she said, “O my Mother fear Allah SWT think of what you are saying are you turning away Rasulullah.. ‘O my Mother it does not suit a believer to make their own decision once Allah SWT and his Rasul have decided on a matter. Do you think that Rasulullah SAW will disgrace us? 

How blessed is the status of Julaybib RA, that Allah SWT and his Rasul are asking for your daughters hand on his behalf. Don’t you know that the angels themselves envy the dust on the feet of one who is a beloved of Allah SWT and Rasulullah SAW. Ask Rasulullah SAW to send me Julaybib for their is no greater privilege than for me to be blessed by such a husband, Rasulullah SAW has arrived with such a wonderful gift yet my Mother you cry and wail.”
She was married by Rasulullah SAW to Julaybib RA and they lived together until he was killed in an expedition. On the day of the expedition his father in law, had pleaded with him: “‘O Julaybib this is just an expedition, it is not a compulsory Jihad, it is a voluntary Jihad, therefore you are newly married spend some time with your wife.” Julaybib RA, the one who had spent a lifetime in despair had now found a loving wife. But he replied to his father In laws request and said, ” ‘O my father you say a strange thing, my Rasulullah is in the battlefield facing the enemies of Islam and you want me to sit at home with my wife, nay I will sacrifice my blood and my soul rather than see my Rasul facing hardship while I sit at home in luxury”.
Julaybib participated in an expedition with Rasulullah SAW in which an encounter with some enemies ensued. After that battle the Rasulullah SAW , asked his companions to go and to see if anyone was missing from their family’s and clans. Each one returned accounting for all his family members. Then Rasulullah SAW spoke with tears in his eyes he said “But I have lost my Beloved Julaybib, go and find him.” They found his diminutive body lying next to seven enemies he had slain in the battle.
Rasulullah SAW asked for a grave to be dug, while Rasulullah SAW held the body of Julaybib he said. “O’ Allah he is from me and I am from Him”, he repeated this three times. The companions wept profusely “May our Mothers and Fathers be sacrificed for you O’ Julaybib, how great is your status.” Thus a companion who had once lived as an outcast, shunned by the society around him. He loved Allah SWT and his Rasul and reached such a high status. He who was not good looking was blessed with a beautiful wife, he who was poor was blessed by a wealthy wife, he who had no family or status, was blessed by a wife with noble status and lineage he who had lived in loneliness and despair, was loved by Allah and his Rasul ,He had Rasulullah say: ” O Allah he is from me and I am from him.”
It is said: “That upon his martyrdom, that the sky itself was filled with thousands of angels who had come to participate in his funeral.”
Julaybib RA ‘The Lonesome one’ had become a beloved of Allah, and his prophet, he was lonely no more. Such is the status of the lovers of the Rasulullah..As for his wife it is said that there was no widow whose hand was more sought after in marriage than hers.
Julaybib the little angel among the companions.(Another Version)
There is no record of who his mother of his father was or to what tribe he belonged. This was a grave disability in the society in which he lived. Julaybib RA could not expect any compassion or help, any protection or support from a society that placed a great deal of importance on family and tribal connections. In this regard, all that was known of him was that he was an Arab and that, as far as the new community of Islam was concerned, he was one of the Ansar. Perhaps he belonged to one of the outlying tribes beyond Madinah and had drifted into the city or he could have even been from among the Ansar of the city itself.
The disabilities under which Julaybib RA lived would have been enough to have him ridiculed and shunned in any society and in fact he was prohibited by one person, a certain Abu Barzah of the Aslam tribe, from entering his home. He once told his wife: “Do not let Julaybib enter among you. If he does, I shall certainly do (something terrible to him).” Probably because he was teased and scoffed at in the company of men, Julaybib RA used to take refuge in the company of women. Was there any hope of Julaybib RA being treated with respect and consideration? Was there any hope of his finding emotional satisfaction as an individual and as a man? Was there any hope of his enjoying the relationships which others take for granted? And in the society emerging under the guidance of Rasulullah SAW, was he so insignificant as to be overlooked in the preoccupation with the great affairs of the state and in the supreme issues of life and survival which constantly engaged the attention of Rasulullah SAW?
Just as he was aware of the great issues of life and destiny, Rasulullah SAW was also aware of the needs and sensibilities of his most humble companions. With Julaybib in mind, Rasulullah went to one of the Ansar and said: “I want to have your daughter married.” “How wonderful and blessed, O Messenger of Allah and what a delight to the eye (this would be),” replied the Ansari man with obvious joy and happiness. “I do not want her for myself,” added the Prophet. “Then for whom, O Messenger of Allah?” asked the man, obviously somewhat let down. “For Julaybib,” said the Prophet. The Ansari must have been too shocked to give his own reaction and he merely said: “I will consult with her mother.” And off he went to his wife. “The Messenger of Allah, may Allah bless him and grant him peace, wants to have your daughter married,” he said to her. She too was thrilled. “What a wonderful idea and what a delight to the eye (this would be),” she said. “He does not want to marry her himself but he wants to marry her to Julaybib,” he added. She was flabbergasted.
“To Julaybib! No, never to Julaybib! No, by Allah, we shall not marry (her) to him,” she protested. As the Ansari was about to return to Rasulullah SAW to inform him of what his wife had said, the daughter who had head her mother’s protestations, asked: “Who has asked you to marry me?” Her mother told her of Rasulullah’s request for her hand in marriage to Julaybib. When she heard that the request had come from Rasulullah SAW and that her mother was absolutely opposed to the idea, she was greatly perturbed and said: “Do you refuse the request of Rasul of Allah? Send me to him for he shall certainly not bring ruin to me.” This was the reply of a truly great person who had a clear understanding of what was required of her as a Muslim. What greater satisfaction and fulfillment can a Muslim find than in responding willingly to the requests and commands of Rasulullah SAW! No doubt, this companion of Rasulullah SAW, whose name we do not even know had heard the verse of the Quran:
It is not for a believer, man or woman, when Allah and his Rasul have decreed a matter that they should have any option in their decision. And whoever disobeys Allah and Rasul, he has indeed strayed in a plain error.” (The Qur’an, Surah al-Ahzab, 33:36)
This verse was revealed in connection with the marriage of Zaynab bint Jahsh and Zayd ibn al-Harithah RA which was arranged by Rasulullah SAW to show the egalitarian spirit of Islam. Zaynab at first was highly offended at the thought of marrying Zayd a former slave and refused to do so. The Prophet prevailed upon them both and they were married. The marriage however ended in divorce and Zaynab was eventually married to Rasulullah himself. It is said that the Ansari girl read the verse to her parents and said: “I am satisfied and submit myself to whatever the Rasulullah see fit and deems good for me.” Rasulullah SAW heard of her reaction and prayed for her: “O Lord, bestow good on her in abundance and make not her life one of toil and trouble.” Among the Ansar, it is said that there was not a more eligible bride than she. She was married by Rasulullah SAW to Julaybib and they lived together until he was killed.
And how was Julaybib killed? He went on an expedition with Rasulullah SAW and an encounter with some mushrikin (polytheists) ensued. When the battle was over, Rasulullah asked his companions: “Have you lost anyone?” They replied giving the names of their relatives or close friends who were killed. He put the same questions to other companions and they also named the ones they had lost in the battle. Another group answered that they had lost no close relatives whereupon Rasulullah SAW said: “But I have lost Julaybib. Search for him in the battlefield.” They searched and found him beside seven mushrikin whom he had struck before meeting his end. Rasulullah SAW stood up and went to the spot where Julaybib, his short and deformed companion, lay. He stood over him and said: “He killed seven and then was killed? This (man) is of me and I am of him.” He repeated this two or three times. Rasulullah SAW then took him in his arms and it is said that he had no better bed besides the forearms of Rasulullah SAW. Rasulullah then dug for him a grave and himself placed him in it. He did not wash him for martyrs and not washed before burial.
Julaybib and his wife are not usually among the Companions of Rasulullah SAW whose deeds are sung and whose exploits are recounted with reverence and admiration as they should be. But in the meagre facts that are known about them and which have here been recounted we see how humble human beings were given hope and dignity by Rasulullah SAW where once they was only despair and self-debasement. The attitude of the unknown and unnamed Ansari girl who readily agreed to be the wife of a physically unattractive man was an attitude which reflected a profound understanding of Islam. It reflected on her path the effacement of personal desires and preferences even when she could have counted on the support of her parents. It reflected on her part a total disregard for social pressures. It reflected above all a ready and implicit confidence in the wisdom and authority of Rasulullah SAW in submitting herself to whatever he deemed good. This is the attitude of the true believer.
In Julaybib, there is the example of a person who was almost regarded as a social outcast because of his appearance. Given help, confidence and encouragement by the noble Rasul SAW, he was able to perform acts of courage and make the supreme sacrifice and deserve the commendation of Rasulullah SAW : “He is of me and I am of him.”
The blessed wife of Julaybib RA- The best of Iman and Taqwa.
(Another side of Julaybib)
On the early part of the story of Julaybib RA, we can learn from the life of Julaybib RA. But his life story is a special one, that includes also a special woman. There are plenty of lessons we can learn from her as well. Although we provide a small recap on the life of Julaybib RA. Julaybib RA was a companion of Rasulullah SAW, though Julaybib RA was not his real name. In fact, we don’t know what his real name was. What we do know is that ‘Julaybib’ (meaning ‘small grown’) was a nickname given to him by the people of his community: a reference to his appearance. He was labelled as ‘damaam’, which means ugly or unattractive, and as well as being very small and short, he suffered from a physical deformity that most narrators describe as being ‘Dwarfism’.
The companion knew nothing much of his lineage. He had absolutely no family, and nobody knew his mother or father. In a society that inextricably bound lineage with social status, there was no way for Julaybib RA to enjoy the benefits of the tribal social structure. He had no kin, no wealth, no protection, and no support. For him, there was no prospect of marriage. It was simply assumed by the Arabs that he was an Ansari.
Some of the sahabi treated him just like a below average person, been teased and mocked at every opportunity. Because of these, he was forced to sit with women (before the ruling of hijab and segregation), who were much more compassionate to him, and who didn’t find his appearance a source of laughter. But this wasn’t liked by everyone. One companion, Abu Barzah Al-Aslami, even said:

Julaybib was a man who used to enter upon women and joke with them. I said to my wife, ‘Do not let Julaybib enter upon you, for if he enters upon you I shall do such and such.’” [Musnad Ahmad (4/422) No. 19799]

The Rasulullah SAW, however, considered Julaybib to be a dear friend, and was thus keen to help him. He set about trying to find him a wife, knowing that without his assistance, it was highly unlikely that his friend would be married. It was then that the Rasulullah SAW first approached the family of the sahaabiyah who would later become Julaybib’s wife. Her name is unknown, but her legacy and reputation precedes her. Both her father and mother initially mistook Rasulullah’s request as his own, and when he clarified that no, he was not asking about marriage for himself, but for Julaybib, the sahabiyah’s parents were bitterly disappointed. Their daughter was a woman who was highly sought after by many wealthy and well-respected companions. Her parents perhaps expected this request to be, if not from Rasulullah SAW himself,but from Uthman RA or Abu Bakr RA, but not Julaybib RA.
In fact, at the mention of his mere name, the mother cried:
What! Julaybib? No, by Allah, we will not marry her to him.” [Musnad Ahmad (4/422) No. 19799]
But this conversation was overheard by their daughter – a woman of Iman and Tawaakul; a woman who possessed a strong desire to please and submit to the Rasul of Allah. She knew exactly who Julaybib was; she knew of his appearance, his status (or lack thereof), and his reputation. Despite her own beauty, wealth and desired status, she told her mother:
Are you refusing to follow the command of Rasulullah SAW? Follow his command, for I will not come to any harm.” [Musnad Ahmad (4/422) No. 19799]
Soon after their marriage, there came the opportunity for Julaybib RA to join Rasulullah SAW on an expedition. Being keen to fight alongside Rasulullah SAW, he left behind the comforts of newly-married life to join the battalion – and his sacrifice was rewarded immensely, with Julaybib RA meeting his end as a Martyr.
With regards to Julaybib’s wife, the following has been narrated:

Thabit, said: “There was no widow among the Ansar who was more sought after for marriage than that girl.” Ishaq bin Abdullah bin Abi Talhah asked Thabit, “Do you know how Rasulullah prayed for that girl?”

He told him: “He said, O Allah , pour blessings upon her and do not make her life hard.” And this is how it was; there was no widow among the Ansar who was more sought after for marriage than her.” [Musnad Ahmad (4/422) No. 19799]

His name was unusual and incomplete. Julaybib means “small grown” being the diminutive form of the word “Jalbab “. The name is an indication that Julaybib was small and short, even of dwarf-like stature. More than that, he is described as being “damim” which means ugly, deformed, or of repulsive appearance.
Even more disturbing, for the society in which he lived, Julaybib’s lineage was not known. There is no record of who his mother or his father was or to what tribe he belonged. This was a grave disability in the society in which he lived. Julaybib RA could not expect any compassion or help, any protection or support from a society that placed a great deal of importance on family and tribal connections. In this regard, all that was known of him was that he was an Arab and that, as far as the new community of Islam was concerned, he was one of the Ansar. Perhaps he belonged to one of the outlying tribes beyond Madinah and had drifted into the city or he could even have been from among the Ansar of the city itself.
The disabilities under which Julaybib RA lived would have been enough to have him ridiculed and shunned in any society and in fact he was prohibited by one person, a certain Abu Barzah of the Aslam tribe, from entering his home. He once told his wife:
“Do not let Julaybib enter among you. If he does, I shall certainly do (something terrible to him).” Probably because he was teased and scoffed at in the company of men, Julaybib used to take refuge in the company of women.
Was there any hope of Julaybib RA being treated with respect and consideration? Was there any hope of his finding emotional satisfaction as an individual and as a man? Was there any hope of his enjoying the relationships which others take for granted? And in the new society emerging under the guidance of the Rasulullah SAW, was he so insignificant as to be overlooked in the preoccupation with the great affairs of state and in the supreme issues of life and survival which constantly engaged the attention of the Rasulullah SAW?
Just as he was aware of the great issues of life and destiny, Rasulullah SAW was also aware of the needs and sensibilities of his most humble companions. With Julaybib in mind, Rasulullah SAW went to one of the Ansar and said: “I want to have your daug hter married.” “How wonderful and blessed, O! Rasulullah and what a delight to the eye (this would be),” replied the Ansari man with obvious joy and happiness. “I do not want her for myself,” added the Prophet. “Then for whom, O! Rasulullah?” asked the man, obviously somewhat let down. “For Julaybib,” said Rasulullah SAW.
The Ansari must have been too shocked to give his own reaction and he merely said: “I will consult with her mother.” And off he went to his wife. “Rasulullah , may Allah  bless him and grant him peace, wants to have your daughter married,” he said to her. She too was thrilled. “What a wonderful idea and what a delight to the eye (this would be).” she said. “He doesn’t want to marry her himself but he wants to marry her to Julaybib,” he added. She was flabbergasted.
“To Julaybib! No, never to Julaybib! No, by the living Allah, we shall not marry (her) to him.” she protested.
As the Ansari was about to return to Rasulullah SAW to inform him of what his wife had said, the daughter who had heard her mother’s protestations, asked: “Who has asked you to marry me?”
Her mother told her of the Rasulullah’s request for her hand in marriage to Julaybib. When she heard that the request had come from Rasulullah SAW and that her mother was absolutely opposed to the idea, she was greatly perturbed and said:
“Do you refuse the request of Rasulullah? Send me to him for he shall certainly not bring ruin to me.” This was the reply of a truly great person who had a clear understanding of what was required of her as a Muslim. What greater satisfaction an d fulfillment can a Muslim find than in responding willingly to the requests and commands of Rasulullah SAW! No doubt, this companion of the Rasulullah, whose name we do not even know had heard the verse of the Quran:
 “Now whenever Allah and His Rasul have decided a matter, it is not for a believing man or believing woman to claim freedom of choice in so far as they themselves are concerned. And he who disobeys Allah and His Rasul has already, most obviously, gone astray.” (The Quran, Surah al-Ahzab, 33:36).
This verse was revealed in connection with the marriage of Zaynab bint Jahsh and Zayd ibn al-Harithah which was arranged by the Rasulullah SAW to show the egalitarian spirit of Islam. Zaynab at first was highly offended at the thought of marrying Zayd a former s lave and refused to do so. Rasulullah SAW prevailed upon them both and they were married. The marriage however ended in divorce and Zaynab was eventually married to Rasulullah SAW himself. It is said that the Ansari girl read the verse to her parents and said :
“I am satisfied and submit myself to whatever  Rasulullah SAW and Allah  deems good for me.” Rasulullah SAW  heard of her reaction and prayed for her: “O Lord, bestow good on her in abundance and make not her life one of toil and trouble.”
Among the Ansar, it is said there was not a more eligible bride than she. She was married by Rasulullah SAW to Julaybib and they lived together until he was killed.
And how was Julaybib killed? He went on an expedition with the Rasulullah SAW, and an encounter with some mushrikin ensued. When the battle was over, Rasulullah SAW asked his companions: “Have you lost anyone?” They replied giving the names of their relatives of close friends who were killed. He put the same questions to other companions and they also named the ones they had lost in the battle. Another group answered that they had lost no close relative whereupon the Prophet said:
But I have lost Julaybib. Search for him in the battlefield.” They searched and found him beside seven mushrikin whom he had struck before meeting his end. Rasulullah stood up and went to the spot where Julaybib, his short and deformed companion, lay. He stood over him and said: “He killed seven and then was killed? This (man) is of me and I am of him.”
He repeated this two or three times. Rasulullah SAW then took him in his arms and it is said that he had no better bed besides the forearms of Rasulullah. Rasulullah SAW then dug for him a grave and himself placed him in it. He did not wash him for martyrs are not washed before burial.
Julaybib and his wife are not usually among the companions of Rasulullah SAW whose deeds are sung and whose exploits are recounted with reverence and admiration as they should be. But in the meagre facts that are known about them and which have here been re counted we see how humble human beings were given hope and dignity by Rasulullah SAW where once there was only despair and self-debasement.
The attitude of the unknown and unnamed Ansari girl who readily agreed to be the wife of a physically unattractive man was an attitude which reflected a profound understanding of Islam. It reflected on her part the effacement of personal desires and preferences even when she could have counted on the support of her parents. It reflected on her part a total disregard for social pressures. It reflected above all a ready and implicit confidence in the wisdom and authority of Rasulullah  in submitting herself to whatever he deemed good. This is the attitude of the true believer.
In Julaybib RA, there is the example of a person who was almost regarded as a social outcast because of his appearance. Given help, confidence and encouragement by the noble Rasulullah SAW, he was able to perform acts of courage and make the supreme sacrifice and deserve the commendation of Rasulullah SAW: “He is of me and I am of him.”

Another story of the Sahaba: Julaybib RA

Companions of the Rasulullah SAW who come to mind throughout Islamic history. Some are huge in stature, and others are humble, yet highly respectable or brilliant in some way. Julaybib RA was a beloved companion of Rasulullah SAW, however, not a likely figure to make it in the ranks of celebrated heroes of Islam.

His life and deeds were not sung nor recounted with reverence as they should be but with the meager facts available one sees hope for humble souls through his life. Julaybib was not tall, or handsome, he was not known to be a gallant warrior on the battlefield before the advent of Islam. His personal attributes appeared so contrary to the normal heroes of old. Julaybib RA was an orphan, deformed and extremely short. He was brutally rejected by society because the people were more concerned with his physical appearance and status than integrity.

His story is significant and many lessons can be learnt from it. It shows us a lot about how a human being can be devalued based on superficial things. His life is an example and hope for souls filled with despondency because they do not measure up to the norms set by society. His story touches the hearts of many even today.

Julaybib RA was an orphan from Madinah and acquired his name before embracing Islam. His name means “small grown” in Arabic which denoted his physical appearance. He was extremely short and could be compared to a dwarf when considering today’s definition. It is also noted that he was even described as “damim” in Arabic which means deformed, unattractive or of repulsive appearance. In addition to his physical appearance, another important factor in his mistreatment had to do with his lineage. Lineage was an essential part in the Arab society he lived in, just as it is still important today in many cases. One’s lineage determined his or her status in the society. His physical appearance, and unknown lineage, made people shun and spurn him. He was an outcast which caused him much public humiliation and disgrace.

Facing such disdainful treatment, Julaybib was apparently a lonely soul yearning for love and compassion. As he was carrying the burden of prejudice on his shoulder from the time he was born, companionship, love and compassion became alien to him.There were often times, a question as to whether this man would even taste any compassion or respect in his life. The question cleared with his acceptance of the Prophet Muhammad’s message of Islam.

He became a devoted servant of Almighty Allah and beloved companion of Prophet Muhammad. He gained respect and affection from Prophet Muhammad, for his sincerity, integrity and strong Islamic belief. Julaybib earned the honor he yearned and became one of the most valued companions of the Prophet. Prophet Muhammad cared deeply for this soul. He was sensitive of Julaybib’s needs, and this is evident from the hadith where the Prophet approached a man from the Ansar (Madinah Muslims who helped the Makkans when they emigrated to Madinah), seeking the hand of his beautiful daughter in marriage on behalf of Julaybib. The Islamic scholar, Imam Ahmad, has recorded this incidents in Julaybib life as follows:

The Prophet went to a man of the Ansar and said:”Give me your daughter for marriage.”The man answered excitedly, “Yes, O Messenger of Allah , it would be an honor and a blessing.”For which the Prophet said, “I do not want her for myself.”The Ansari man asked, “Then for whom, O Messenger of Allah?”And the Prophet answered, “For Julaybib.”When the Ansari man heard this, he was shocked and said, “O Messenger of Allah, let me consult her mother.” So he went to the girl’s mother (his wife) and told her, “The Messenger of Allah is proposing marriage for your daughter.”The wife of the Ansari seemed overjoyed and said, “Yes, it would be a pleasure.”The Ansari explained to his wife that the Prophet was not proposing to marry their daughter for himself but he is proposing on behalf of Julaybib.His wife was almost shaken and immediately responded, “What! Julaybib? No, by Allah, we will not marry her to him.”

When the Ansari prepared to leave to meet the Messenger of Allah and mentioned to him his mother’s disapproval, his daughter, a pious Muslim, asked her father, “Who is asking for my hand?”

Her mother told her that the Prophet was asking her hand on behalf Julaybib. Their daughter instantly asked them, “Are you refusing to follow the command of the Messenger of Allah? Follow his command, for I will not come to any harm.”

The following is illustrated in the book Companions of the Prophet by Abdul Wahid Hamid: Hearing her daughter’s word, the Mother’s heart being filled with remorse said: “Stop my daughter, don’t say another word indeed I have erred I repent and I repent a thousand times over for as of this moment their is no one who I would prefer for you than Julaybib.”

The following day the marriage was in place, Uthman and Ali, two of the Prophet’s Companions, presented Julaybib a gift of money to help arrange the wedding reception, and to purchase necessary accommodation. So the Prophet married the beautiful daughter of the Ansari to Julaybib who was once rejected by the whole society. The attitude of the daughter of the Ansari was that of a true believer.

The daughter’s attitude shows her confidence of a Muslim woman who could not be influenced by the whims of the society. Unlike the parent’s of today’s world who are more concerned about status and money, her parents’ reaction to her approval explains how Islam does not pressure a woman nor does it disregard her right to choose her husband.

Islam gave the happiness Julaybib deserved and he lived happily together with his beautiful wife until he was martyred. The following hadith is another proof that Julaybib was indeed dearly loved and valued by Prophet Muhammad:

…After a battle, the Prophet asked his Companions:

….”Is anyone missing amongst you?”

…..They said: “So and so and so.”

……He asked them again: “Is there anyone missing amongst you?”

……They answered: “So and so and so.”

……He asked them for the third time: “Is there anyone missing amongst you?”

……They said: “No.”

……Thereupon the Prophet said:

……”But I see that Julaybib is missing.”

The Companions searched for him amongst those who had been killed and found him by the side of seven enemies whom he had killed. He had been killed. The Prophet came there and stood by his body and said: “He killed seven people. Then his opponents killed him. He is mine and I am his.”

He then placed him upon his hands and there was none else to lift him but the Prophet Muhammad. Then the grave was dug for him and he was placed in it. ( Sahih Muslim)

The man whose life was filled with despair and struggles won the hearts and admiration of many through his pure intentions, traits, and love for Islam and the Prophet. It is really amazing to note how this man of small stature managed to hold a sword and kill his opponent. He was able to accomplish much chivalry through the Prophet’s encouragement.

There are so many lessons to be learnt from Julaybib’s life. His story is a reflection of Islam. Islam ended his desolate world of disparagement.

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